"Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune"
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The intent is almost clinical. Misfortune has two payloads: the event itself, and the psychic aftershock of refusal - the inner litigation of "it shouldn't have happened", the reruns, the moral accounting that pretends pain can be cross-examined into disappearing. James is naming that second layer as optional, or at least reducible. If you can "have it so" in your mind, you reclaim attention and agency. You can act. You can adjust. You can triage.
The subtext is bracingly modern: emotional suffering isn't always a badge of depth; sometimes it's a stuck process. James isn't offering a stoic shrug so much as an operating system update. Acceptance is framed as the first step because it converts chaos into facts, and facts are workable. Without that conversion, consequences metastasize - not only external costs but the internal drag of resentment and self-blame.
In James's era, with psychology emerging as a science and industrial modernity accelerating, the line reads like a bridge between philosophy and self-management. It anticipates today's therapy language ("radical acceptance") while keeping a tougher edge: reality doesn't need your consent, but your future does.
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| Topic | Letting Go |
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James, William. (2026, January 18). Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-willing-to-have-it-so-acceptance-of-what-has-22119/
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"Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-willing-to-have-it-so-acceptance-of-what-has-22119/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.













