"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken"
About this Quote
The subtext is classic Wilde: society runs on performance, but it punishes the performers who admit it. Victorian culture demanded immaculate surfaces - proper manners, proper desires, proper biographies - while Wilde made a career of exposing how staged that propriety was. In that context, "Be yourself" isn’t a Hallmark affirmation; it’s a sly dare. If you’re truly yourself, you risk being illegible to the audience that wants familiar scripts. Wilde’s own life sharpens the edge: his public persona, his queerness, and his eventual prosecution make the line read less like a quip and more like a survival strategy with a razor inside it.
The brilliance is how the sentence flatters and mocks the reader at once. It offers empowerment, then reminds you how derivative your anxieties are. You want to be someone else because it feels safer. Wilde suggests the opposite: the safest disguise is the only one no one can steal, and the most subversive act is refusing to audition for a part that’s already cast.
Quote Details
| Topic | Self-Love |
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| Source | Later attribution: Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken (Mike Robbins, 2009) modern compilation
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| Featured | This quote was our Quote of the Day on October 4, 2023 |
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"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." FixQuotes, 7 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/be-yourself-everyone-else-is-already-taken-172987/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.











