"Before we can forgive one another, we have to understand one another"
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The subtext carries Goldman’s lifelong suspicion of moral shortcuts. Forgiveness, in her world, can be a weapon: a way for the powerful to declare a conflict resolved while keeping the terms of power intact. If you “forgive” the exploited without understanding the pressures that shaped their choices, you’re not being generous; you’re being condescending. If you ask the harmed to forgive without understanding what was taken from them, you’re managing their pain for social convenience. Understanding, here, isn’t sentimental empathy. It’s analysis: tracing cause and effect, looking squarely at coercion, poverty, patriarchy, state violence.
The line also pushes against the era’s moralistic binaries, where people were sorted into the deserving and the depraved. Goldman insists that reconciliation starts with curiosity rigorous enough to unsettle your own righteousness. She’s smuggling a radical ethic into a simple sentence: if you want peace between people, you have to interrogate the world that made them enemies.
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| Topic | Forgiveness |
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"Before we can forgive one another, we have to understand one another." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/before-we-can-forgive-one-another-we-have-to-46477/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





