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Happiness Quote by Francois de La Rochefoucauld

"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy they are, who already possess it"

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Desire gets glamorous in the distance; possession is where the lighting turns harsh. La Rochefoucauld’s line is a scalpel aimed at the romantic theater of wanting. Instead of asking what we crave, he asks us to audit the people who already have it. Not as saints or role models, but as data points. Are they actually content, or merely furnished with the symbols we’ve been trained to mistake for contentment?

The intent is corrective, almost clinical: before you mortgage your inner life to an object, status, or relationship, run a reality check on its owners. The subtext is more biting. He’s implying that many ambitions are socially contagious delusions. We don’t want the thing; we want the narrative around the thing. That narrative collapses the moment you observe the supposedly “fortunate” living inside it - bored, anxious, trapped by upkeep, or simply unchanged. The quote doesn’t preach humility; it prescribes disillusionment as a form of self-defense.

Context matters: La Rochefoucauld wrote from the pressure cooker of the French aristocratic court, where reputation was currency and envy was a daily sport. His Maxim is a courtly antidote to courtly poison: don’t let prestige hijack your heart. Read in 2026, it lands like a critique of influencer culture and consumer aspiration. Scroll long enough and you’ll set your heart on someone else’s life; his advice is to look for the unhappiness beneath the filter before you call it your dream.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Rochefoucauld, Francois de La. (2026, January 15). Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy they are, who already possess it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/before-we-set-our-hearts-too-much-upon-anything-21248/

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Rochefoucauld, Francois de La. "Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy they are, who already possess it." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/before-we-set-our-hearts-too-much-upon-anything-21248/.

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"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy they are, who already possess it." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/before-we-set-our-hearts-too-much-upon-anything-21248/. Accessed 9 Feb. 2026.

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Francois de La Rochefoucauld

Francois de La Rochefoucauld (September 15, 1613 - March 17, 1680) was a Writer from France.

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