"Behaviors are a choice. Feelings are sometimes out of our control. Behavior has to do with choices"
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The repetition is intentional. “Behaviors are a choice” and “Behavior has to do with choices” is not elegant, but it’s sticky. It reads like something meant to survive a heated argument, a rally, or a TV hit: short clauses, low nuance, high portability. You can deploy it as a mic-drop in any debate where someone invokes trauma, anger, fear, or desire as explanation. It doesn’t deny those forces; it simply refuses to let them stand as justification.
The subtext is cultural as much as personal: this is a rebuke to an era that increasingly treats interior life as the most authoritative evidence we have. Terry’s framing elevates outward conduct over inward experience, pushing back against therapeutic talk that centers “valid feelings.” It’s also a way of policing boundaries: if you can’t control what you feel, you can still be judged - and expected to comply - based on what you choose to do next.
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| Topic | Self-Discipline |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Terry, Randall. (2026, January 14). Behaviors are a choice. Feelings are sometimes out of our control. Behavior has to do with choices. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/behaviors-are-a-choice-feelings-are-sometimes-out-116017/
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Terry, Randall. "Behaviors are a choice. Feelings are sometimes out of our control. Behavior has to do with choices." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/behaviors-are-a-choice-feelings-are-sometimes-out-116017/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Behaviors are a choice. Feelings are sometimes out of our control. Behavior has to do with choices." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/behaviors-are-a-choice-feelings-are-sometimes-out-116017/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.










