"Being is like pretending"
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"Being is like pretending" lands with the kind of backstage honesty you only really hear from actors, or from people who’ve had to reinvent themselves in public. Sorvino’s line collapses the supposed difference between authenticity and performance: the self isn’t a fixed core you finally uncover, it’s something you keep staging - consciously or not - until it becomes livable.
The phrasing matters. "Being" is the grand philosophical word, all essence and permanence. "Pretending" is the supposedly lesser activity, associated with childhood, fakery, or artifice. By yoking them together, Sorvino flips the hierarchy. She’s not romanticizing deception; she’s pointing at a practical truth: identity is rehearsal. You try on confidence, kindness, toughness, even happiness. Sometimes you feel it; sometimes you don’t. The trying still counts, and over time it can become indistinguishable from the "real" thing.
As an actress, Sorvino is especially positioned to say this without sounding like a cynic. Acting is a profession built on inhabiting emotions on schedule, under lights, for money. That can breed a blunt insight about everyday life: we all perform roles - partner, professional, good person, survivor - and the performance shapes us back. The subtext is almost comforting. If being is like pretending, then you’re not a fraud for struggling to feel whole. You’re doing what humans do: constructing a self out of gestures, choices, and repetition, hoping the mask slowly fits.
The phrasing matters. "Being" is the grand philosophical word, all essence and permanence. "Pretending" is the supposedly lesser activity, associated with childhood, fakery, or artifice. By yoking them together, Sorvino flips the hierarchy. She’s not romanticizing deception; she’s pointing at a practical truth: identity is rehearsal. You try on confidence, kindness, toughness, even happiness. Sometimes you feel it; sometimes you don’t. The trying still counts, and over time it can become indistinguishable from the "real" thing.
As an actress, Sorvino is especially positioned to say this without sounding like a cynic. Acting is a profession built on inhabiting emotions on schedule, under lights, for money. That can breed a blunt insight about everyday life: we all perform roles - partner, professional, good person, survivor - and the performance shapes us back. The subtext is almost comforting. If being is like pretending, then you’re not a fraud for struggling to feel whole. You’re doing what humans do: constructing a self out of gestures, choices, and repetition, hoping the mask slowly fits.
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