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Happiness Quote by Christina Rossetti

"Better by far you should forget and smile that you should remember and be sad"

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Rossetti’s line doesn’t plead for shallow cheerfulness; it issues a cool, almost austere instruction about how to survive feeling. “Better by far” lands like a moral verdict, the voice of someone who has weighed the options and decided that memory can be a kind of self-harm. The pairing is stark and economical: forget/smile versus remember/sad. No third way, no romantic middle ground where longing is noble. That compression is the trick. It forces you to confront how often we treat sadness as evidence of depth, as if grief keeps love honest.

The subtext is less “move on” than “stop performing fidelity to pain.” Rossetti, writing in a Victorian culture that prized feminine restraint and spiritual seriousness, understands how remembrance can become a socially sanctioned loop: you prove your character by carrying sorrow politely, indefinitely. Her speaker refuses that bargain. Forgetting here isn’t an insult to what happened; it’s a boundary. Smiling isn’t denial; it’s a chosen posture, a reclamation of the present from the tyranny of replay.

Context matters: Rossetti’s work frequently circles renunciation, devotion, and the costs of desire. She knew the beauty of melancholy and also its seduction. This line reads like someone interrupting their own elegiac instincts. It’s not anti-love; it’s anti-captive love. The sentence offers a radical permission slip: you can honor what was without letting it draft you into permanent sadness.

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TopicLetting Go
SourceChristina Rossetti — poem "Remember" (first published 1862); closing lines: "Better by far you should forget and smile / Than that you should remember and be sad."
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Rossetti, Christina. (n.d.). Better by far you should forget and smile that you should remember and be sad. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/better-by-far-you-should-forget-and-smile-that-8402/

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Rossetti, Christina. "Better by far you should forget and smile that you should remember and be sad." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/better-by-far-you-should-forget-and-smile-that-8402/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Better by far you should forget and smile that you should remember and be sad." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/better-by-far-you-should-forget-and-smile-that-8402/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.

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Christina Rossetti

Christina Rossetti (December 5, 1830 - December 29, 1894) was a Poet from United Kingdom.

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