"Blessed are they who have the gift of making friends, for it is one of God's best gifts. It involves many things, but above all, the power of going out of one's self, and appreciating whatever is noble and loving in another"
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The intent is partly corrective. As a lawyer and reform-minded Victorian, Hughes lived inside institutions that rewarded self-possession, status, and sharp elbows. Against that, he defines friend-making as a kind of sanctioned self-forgetting: “going out of one’s self.” The subtext is that friendship is not primarily about compatibility or convenience; it’s a practiced loosening of the ego. Even the phrase “gift” carries a quiet rebuke: if it’s given, it’s not earned through pedigree, polish, or social maneuvering, and it can’t be claimed as merit without missing the point.
He also slips in an ethic of attention. “Appreciating whatever is noble and loving in another” sounds generous, but it’s selective in a way that reveals his project. You look for the best in people, not as naive optimism, but as a deliberate act of recognition that helps build social glue. In a period anxious about class friction and moral decline, that’s a civic technology: an interpersonal habit that trains citizens to see each other as more than rivals, clients, or types. Friendship becomes, for Hughes, both spiritual exercise and social repair.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Hughes, Thomas. (2026, January 17). Blessed are they who have the gift of making friends, for it is one of God's best gifts. It involves many things, but above all, the power of going out of one's self, and appreciating whatever is noble and loving in another. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/blessed-are-they-who-have-the-gift-of-making-77811/
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Hughes, Thomas. "Blessed are they who have the gift of making friends, for it is one of God's best gifts. It involves many things, but above all, the power of going out of one's self, and appreciating whatever is noble and loving in another." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/blessed-are-they-who-have-the-gift-of-making-77811/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Blessed are they who have the gift of making friends, for it is one of God's best gifts. It involves many things, but above all, the power of going out of one's self, and appreciating whatever is noble and loving in another." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/blessed-are-they-who-have-the-gift-of-making-77811/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.












