"But for me, it is when a student has died. I find the death of a young person the most difficult and painful of times. To explain it to other young people, to see a bright future snuffed out, is just awful. I am haunted by those deaths"
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Her phrasing is calibrated to register both authority and helplessness. “To explain it to other young people” reveals the job she can’t delegate: translating the untranslatable. The subtext is that institutions are asked to offer meaning where there may be none, to provide narrative closure in the face of random loss. “A bright future snuffed out” borrows the language of extinguishing, a violent image that refuses the comforting euphemisms administrators are expected to use.
The most telling line is “I am haunted.” It’s a moral claim disguised as a confession. Shalala is signaling that these deaths aren’t merely occupational hazards of running a university or public agency; they’re enduring ethical debts. In a culture that prizes resilience and “moving forward,” haunting is a refusal to treat tragedy as a solvable problem. It also subtly rebuts cynicism about bureaucrats: behind the bureaucracy is a person keeping a private ledger of the costs that never make it into annual reports.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Shalala, Donna. (2026, January 17). But for me, it is when a student has died. I find the death of a young person the most difficult and painful of times. To explain it to other young people, to see a bright future snuffed out, is just awful. I am haunted by those deaths. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/but-for-me-it-is-when-a-student-has-died-i-find-69937/
Chicago Style
Shalala, Donna. "But for me, it is when a student has died. I find the death of a young person the most difficult and painful of times. To explain it to other young people, to see a bright future snuffed out, is just awful. I am haunted by those deaths." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/but-for-me-it-is-when-a-student-has-died-i-find-69937/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"But for me, it is when a student has died. I find the death of a young person the most difficult and painful of times. To explain it to other young people, to see a bright future snuffed out, is just awful. I am haunted by those deaths." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/but-for-me-it-is-when-a-student-has-died-i-find-69937/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.






