"But my deepest and most secret love belongs to the fair-haired and the blue-eyed, the bright children of life, the happy, the charming and the ordinary"
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The genius of the sentence is its double movement. “Deepest and most secret love” signals taboo and self-knowledge; we’re meant to feel the pressure of what can’t be said. Then the object of that secrecy isn’t transgressive in the usual way (the decadent, the forbidden outsider), but “the happy, the charming and the ordinary.” Mann’s subtext is envy as much as attraction: the artist’s romantic fixation on untroubled vitality, on people who seem to live without the corrosive introspection that makes art possible. The ordinary becomes exotic when you can’t access it.
Contextually, Mann’s work often stages the war between bourgeois normalcy and the artist’s feverish inner life, between health and obsession. This line tilts toward the “healthy” camp with suspicious specificity, hinting at how easily longing for innocence can borrow the visual grammar of purity. The discomfort is the point: Mann exposes how aesthetic desire can drift into moral and political fantasy, even when it begins as a “secret.”
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| Topic | Love |
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Mann, Thomas. (2026, January 15). But my deepest and most secret love belongs to the fair-haired and the blue-eyed, the bright children of life, the happy, the charming and the ordinary. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/but-my-deepest-and-most-secret-love-belongs-to-3932/
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Mann, Thomas. "But my deepest and most secret love belongs to the fair-haired and the blue-eyed, the bright children of life, the happy, the charming and the ordinary." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/but-my-deepest-and-most-secret-love-belongs-to-3932/.
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"But my deepest and most secret love belongs to the fair-haired and the blue-eyed, the bright children of life, the happy, the charming and the ordinary." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/but-my-deepest-and-most-secret-love-belongs-to-3932/. Accessed 22 Feb. 2026.










