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Love Quote by Perry Como

"But when they needed love or help or had a problem of any kind, they could always go to Roselle because she was always there for them. That was not always the case with me"

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The sting here isn’t jealousy; it’s the quiet shame of realizing you were present in the public way and absent in the private one. Perry Como, a man whose whole career depended on sounding comforting, admits that comfort at home had a different address: Roselle. The sentence is built like a lullaby with a bruise underneath it. “Always” repeats like a metronome, first as praise of her reliability, then as an indictment of his inconsistency. The phrasing turns domestic labor into something almost infrastructural: she was “there,” the fixed point, the person children orbit when life gets messy.

Coming from a mid-century male pop star, the subtext is cultural as much as personal. Como’s era sold a model of masculinity where the provider’s love was proved through work, not through emotional availability. Touring, recording, and maintaining the genial, untroubled persona audiences expected could easily be framed as sacrifice. This quote punctures that alibi. He doesn’t claim he tried; he admits a gap. “That was not always the case with me” is pointedly plain, refusing the theatrics of confession. It reads like someone finally choosing accuracy over self-protection.

The intent feels less like self-flagellation than a corrective to the legend. Celebrity marriages often get mythologized as romantic endurance; Como reframes it as division of labor and emotional triage. Roselle isn’t just “supportive,” she is the family’s reliable access point to care. His honesty lands because it’s unsentimental: a soft-voiced singer acknowledging that softness, at home, belonged to someone else.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Como, Perry. (2026, January 16). But when they needed love or help or had a problem of any kind, they could always go to Roselle because she was always there for them. That was not always the case with me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/but-when-they-needed-love-or-help-or-had-a-130572/

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Como, Perry. "But when they needed love or help or had a problem of any kind, they could always go to Roselle because she was always there for them. That was not always the case with me." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/but-when-they-needed-love-or-help-or-had-a-130572/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"But when they needed love or help or had a problem of any kind, they could always go to Roselle because she was always there for them. That was not always the case with me." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/but-when-they-needed-love-or-help-or-had-a-130572/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Perry Como (May 18, 1912 - May 12, 2001) was a Musician from USA.

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