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Marriage Quote by Socrates

"By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher"

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Marriage is treated here less like a romantic culmination than a moral experiment with only two outcomes: comfort or clarity. Socrates, the patron saint of inconvenient questions, turns a social expectation into a trapdoor. The line flatters the institution ("By all means, marry") while quietly detonating it. Either you win domestic bliss, or you get drafted into philosophy by sheer necessity. It’s a joke with teeth: the polis sells marriage as stability; Socrates reframes it as the ultimate stress test of the self.

The subtext is classic Socratic irony. He’s pretending to give practical advice while smuggling in a claim about how wisdom is produced. Philosophy, in this worldview, isn’t an ivory-tower hobby; it’s what happens when your certainties get sandblasted. A "bad wife" becomes a stand-in for friction: disappointment, conflict, the daily grind of another person’s will pressed against yours. That misery doesn’t just make you bitter; it forces you to articulate what you actually believe about happiness, virtue, and freedom.

Context matters because classical Athens ran on marriage as civic infrastructure: heirs, households, alliances. Socrates is needling that machinery, implying that the domestic sphere isn’t an escape from ethical inquiry but one of its most relentless arenas. The punchline also performs a gendered sleight of hand typical of the era, turning the wife into a plot device for male self-development. Even so, the mechanism holds: he’s arguing that philosophy is less a profession than a coping strategy with standards. When life stops cooperating, you either rationalize or you reason. Socrates prefers the second.

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TopicHusband & Wife
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Later attribution: 50 YEARS OF COVENANT MARRIAGE: GOD WROTE OUR LOVE STORY modern compilationID: eI6FEAAAQBAJ
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... By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.” — Socrates “When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient ...
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Socrates. (2026, February 10). By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/by-all-means-marry-if-you-get-a-good-wife-youll-24973/

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Socrates. "By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher." FixQuotes. February 10, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/by-all-means-marry-if-you-get-a-good-wife-youll-24973/.

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"By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher." FixQuotes, 10 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/by-all-means-marry-if-you-get-a-good-wife-youll-24973/. Accessed 26 Feb. 2026.

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