"By hating that person, you have lost something very sweet in yourself"
About this Quote
The intent is corrective, almost therapeutic. Chinmoy isn’t scolding the hater for being bad; he’s warning them they’re being robbed, and the thief is their own fixation. The subtext is that hatred binds you to the person you claim to reject. You keep them alive inside you, rent-free, as a recurring story you rehearse. In that rehearsal, you harden. You start treating your inner life like a courtroom, not a garden.
Contextually, Chinmoy’s philosophy sits in a late-20th-century spiritual ecosystem that favored inner transformation over ideological combat: meditation as culture’s counter-program to grievance, speed, and ego. Read that way, the quote is less about excusing harm than about reclaiming agency. You may not control what someone did to you; you do control whether you let it curdle your capacity for softness. The quiet provocation is that sweetness isn’t naïveté. It’s a resource - and hatred spends it fast.
Quote Details
| Topic | Forgiveness |
|---|---|
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Chinmoy, Sri. (2026, January 18). By hating that person, you have lost something very sweet in yourself. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/by-hating-that-person-you-have-lost-something-7725/
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Chinmoy, Sri. "By hating that person, you have lost something very sweet in yourself." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/by-hating-that-person-you-have-lost-something-7725/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"By hating that person, you have lost something very sweet in yourself." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/by-hating-that-person-you-have-lost-something-7725/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.










