"By not coming forward (about rape), you make yourself a victim forever"
About this Quote
The intent is bluntly motivational: reclaim agency by telling the story. “Coming forward” is framed as the hinge between being acted upon and acting. The subtext, though, is complicated. The quote implies a kind of moral calculus in which disclosure equals liberation, and nondisclosure equals self-imposed captivity. That’s emotionally understandable from someone who experienced the cost of silence, but it also risks collapsing a wide spectrum of survival strategies into a single script of “healing.” Survivors stay quiet for reasons that aren’t psychological weakness: legal exposure, public shaming, family pressure, immigration status, racial bias in credibility, or simply wanting privacy.
Culturally, the line sits in the long wake of #MeToo, when “speak out” became both rallying cry and litmus test. Its power is in the dare: it rejects the passive, socially palatable image of the “perfect victim” and argues that identity can be renegotiated. Its danger is in how easily that dare can be weaponized, shifting responsibility from perpetrators and institutions onto the person already harmed.
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| Topic | Justice |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
McGillis, Kelly. (2026, January 16). By not coming forward (about rape), you make yourself a victim forever. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/by-not-coming-forward-about-rape-you-make-127429/
Chicago Style
McGillis, Kelly. "By not coming forward (about rape), you make yourself a victim forever." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/by-not-coming-forward-about-rape-you-make-127429/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"By not coming forward (about rape), you make yourself a victim forever." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/by-not-coming-forward-about-rape-you-make-127429/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.



