"Certainly tears are given to us to use. Like all good gifts, they should be used properly"
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Tears, in Loretta Young's framing, arent a loss of control so much as a tool with a moral user manual. That one-two move, first sanctifying emotion ("given to us") and then disciplining it ("used properly"), fits the classical Hollywood ethos she helped embody: glamour on the surface, self-management underneath. Young was famous not just for her performances but for her carefully maintained image in an era when studios treated public feeling like a commodity and private messiness like a liability. In that context, the line lands less as permission to cry than as guidance on how to cry.
The religious tint of "gift" matters. A gift implies both gratitude and obligation; you dont waste it, you dont flaunt it, you put it to work. That turns vulnerability into something almost industrious, aligning with mid-century codes of feminine decorum: emotional expression is acceptable, even admirable, when it signals sincerity, humility, repentance, or empathy. "Certainly" also does quiet work, pre-empting anyone who might call tears weak. She isnt apologizing for emotion; she's licensing it.
The subtext is the tightrope women in public life have long walked. Cry too little and you're cold; cry too much and you're unstable. Young offers a third path: feel, but with intention. Its a neat, culturally durable compromise, one that flatters sensitivity while still reassuring the audience that the person crying remains in control.
The religious tint of "gift" matters. A gift implies both gratitude and obligation; you dont waste it, you dont flaunt it, you put it to work. That turns vulnerability into something almost industrious, aligning with mid-century codes of feminine decorum: emotional expression is acceptable, even admirable, when it signals sincerity, humility, repentance, or empathy. "Certainly" also does quiet work, pre-empting anyone who might call tears weak. She isnt apologizing for emotion; she's licensing it.
The subtext is the tightrope women in public life have long walked. Cry too little and you're cold; cry too much and you're unstable. Young offers a third path: feel, but with intention. Its a neat, culturally durable compromise, one that flatters sensitivity while still reassuring the audience that the person crying remains in control.
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| Topic | Sadness |
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