"Children are not problems to be solved. They are people to be loved"
About this Quote
The intent isn’t to romanticize children as angelic; it’s to challenge the adult gaze that reduces them to outcomes. A “problem” invites intervention, control, and impatience. A “person” requires relationship, humility, and time. The subtext is that many of our so-called solutions are really defenses against discomfort: the discomfort of unpredictability, dependence, noise, need. If you label a child a problem, you can justify coercion as “help” and call it care. Love, in contrast, is less tidy. It doesn’t mean permissiveness; it means the kid’s dignity precedes your strategy.
Context matters: MacCracken writes from within a century that professionalized child-rearing. Schools quantify, psychology diagnoses, social media compares, and parents are told they’re one wrong move away from ruining everything. Her sentence functions as an ethical reset button, insisting that affection and recognition aren’t rewards for good behavior but the baseline. It’s also a subtle critique of how society treats the vulnerable: when support systems are thin, we outsource compassion to “solutions” and forget the human on the other side of the clipboard.
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| Topic | Parenting |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
MacCracken, Mary. (2026, January 15). Children are not problems to be solved. They are people to be loved. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/children-are-not-problems-to-be-solved-they-are-172106/
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MacCracken, Mary. "Children are not problems to be solved. They are people to be loved." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/children-are-not-problems-to-be-solved-they-are-172106/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Children are not problems to be solved. They are people to be loved." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/children-are-not-problems-to-be-solved-they-are-172106/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.








