"Children don't understand about people loving each other and then suddenly not"
About this Quote
Tierney’s intent isn’t philosophical; it’s protective. She’s pointing at a blind spot adults use to soothe themselves: the idea that kids are resilient enough not to notice, or too naive to interpret. The subtext is sharper: children do understand love, because they live inside it, but they don’t understand the adult permissions that let love be withdrawn, rerouted, or renamed “for the best.” Adults narrate these shifts with euphemisms; kids read the ambient signals - tension at dinner, separate bedrooms, the sudden politeness - and feel the loss without the vocabulary to file it away.
Culturally, the quote lands as a critique of romantic instability treated as normal adult messiness. Tierney isn’t arguing for staying together at all costs; she’s arguing against pretending the break doesn’t register. The line works because it refuses therapy-speak and moral posturing. It’s one clean sentence that forces responsibility back onto grown-ups: if you’re going to rewrite the rules of love, don’t expect the smallest witnesses to mistake the erasure for magic.
Quote Details
| Topic | Heartbreak |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Tierney, Gene. (2026, January 17). Children don't understand about people loving each other and then suddenly not. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/children-dont-understand-about-people-loving-each-48283/
Chicago Style
Tierney, Gene. "Children don't understand about people loving each other and then suddenly not." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/children-dont-understand-about-people-loving-each-48283/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Children don't understand about people loving each other and then suddenly not." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/children-dont-understand-about-people-loving-each-48283/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.








