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Creativity Quote by Leonard Cohen

"Children show scars like medals. Lovers use them as secrets to reveal. A scar is what happens when the word is made flesh"

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Cohen treats the scar as a kind of biography the body keeps when language fails. The first line lands with a blunt cultural truth: kids don’t yet understand damage as stigma. They display it like proof of living, a rough-and-ready badge system where pain becomes prestige. That’s not sentimentality; it’s anthropology. Cohen is watching how meaning gets assigned to injury long before anyone can articulate it.

Then he swivels to lovers, where the same mark turns private. Adults curate their wounds. In intimacy, scars become “secrets to reveal” because desire feeds on controlled disclosure: the slow unbuttoning of history, the carefully timed confession. Cohen’s subtext is that romance isn’t just attraction; it’s negotiated access to each other’s damage. A scar, in that setting, becomes a prop in the theater of trust.

The final sentence is the Cohen move: mystical, bodily, slightly unsettling. “When the word is made flesh” echoes the Gospel of John, but he drags it out of the cathedral and back into the bedroom and the mirror. Words - promises, lies, names, stories we tell about ourselves - don’t stay airy for long. They land. They leave a mark. He’s hinting that language has consequences, that our narratives cut, heal, and harden into identity.

Context matters: Cohen spent his career braiding scripture, eros, and bruised self-knowledge. This line reads like a late-era distillation of that worldview: the body as the last honest text, and scars as the places where life’s metaphors stop being metaphors.

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Verified source: The Favourite Game (Leonard Cohen, 1963)
Text match: 100.00%   Provider: Cross-Reference
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Children show scars like medals. Lovers use them as secrets to reveal. A scar is what happens when the word is made flesh. (Book I, Chapter 1 (page varies by edition)). Primary source attribution points to Leonard Cohen’s novel The Favourite Game. Multiple independent quote databases and secondary pages attribute the line to The Favourite Game (often specifying Book I, Chapter 1 and sometimes giving a page number for later reprints), but I did not retrieve a scan/view of the 1963 first edition text itself to lock an exact first-edition page number. The novel’s first publication is widely documented as the UK hardback from Secker & Warburg in 1963 (Canada: later; US: 1964).
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F.O.C.U.S. Feeding Ourselves Confidence Under Stress (Darnell Dinkins) compilation95.7%
... Children show scars like medals. Lovers use them as secrets to reveal. A scar is what happens when the word is ma...
M. de Charlus during the war (Chap. 2) (Marcel Proust) primary60.0%
Song: "M. de Charlus during the war (Chap. 2)" by Marcel Proust
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Cohen, Leonard. (2026, February 19). Children show scars like medals. Lovers use them as secrets to reveal. A scar is what happens when the word is made flesh. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/children-show-scars-like-medals-lovers-use-them-161200/

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Cohen, Leonard. "Children show scars like medals. Lovers use them as secrets to reveal. A scar is what happens when the word is made flesh." FixQuotes. February 19, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/children-show-scars-like-medals-lovers-use-them-161200/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Children show scars like medals. Lovers use them as secrets to reveal. A scar is what happens when the word is made flesh." FixQuotes, 19 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/children-show-scars-like-medals-lovers-use-them-161200/. Accessed 22 Feb. 2026.

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Leonard Cohen (September 21, 1934 - November 7, 2016) was a Musician from Canada.

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