"Connection is why we're here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it, there is suffering"
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The intent is clarifying and mobilizing. Brown isn’t just comforting isolated readers; she’s building a case against the modern cult of self-sufficiency. “Purpose and meaning” are presented not as private achievements but as relational outcomes. That’s a direct rebuttal to meritocratic storytelling, where the good life is earned solo through grit. Her subtext: your bravado about independence may be a trauma response, and our institutions often reward it anyway.
Context matters. Brown rose alongside TED-era vulnerability culture, when therapy language seeped into workplaces, friendships, and Instagram captions. In that ecosystem, “connection” becomes both a psychological need and a cultural corrective to atomized living: remote work, political polarization, algorithmic socializing, a loneliness epidemic that’s measurable, not metaphorical. The final clause - “without it, there is suffering” - is deliberately blunt. It’s not poetic; it’s diagnostic. She’s making disconnection legible as pain, so the reader feels justified demanding more from community, family, employers, and themselves.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Brown, Brené. (2026, January 14). Connection is why we're here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it, there is suffering. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/connection-is-why-were-here-we-are-hardwired-to-171473/
Chicago Style
Brown, Brené. "Connection is why we're here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it, there is suffering." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/connection-is-why-were-here-we-are-hardwired-to-171473/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Connection is why we're here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it, there is suffering." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/connection-is-why-were-here-we-are-hardwired-to-171473/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.









