"Constructive criticism is about finding something good and positive to soften the blow to the real critique of what really went on"
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The intent is pragmatic, almost protective. Abdul isn’t arguing against honesty; she’s describing how honesty gets smuggled in. The “something good and positive” isn’t merely kindness, it’s cushioning and compliance. The subtext: critique is socially dangerous, and most people don’t have the appetite (or power) to deliver it raw. Softening “the blow” acknowledges that criticism is a kind of impact - it bruises egos, threatens identity, destabilizes the story someone is telling about themselves.
There’s also a sly admission of artifice. Constructive criticism, in this view, can become a rhetorical strategy that makes the critic feel ethical while preserving the hierarchy: I get to judge you, but I’ll wrap it in a compliment so I look humane. In the culture Abdul helped define - where talent is edited into narrative and judges are cast as characters - feedback isn’t just information. It’s entertainment, diplomacy, and brand management at once. The real critique is still there; it just arrives wearing sequins.
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Abdul, Paula. (2026, January 16). Constructive criticism is about finding something good and positive to soften the blow to the real critique of what really went on. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/constructive-criticism-is-about-finding-something-82500/
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Abdul, Paula. "Constructive criticism is about finding something good and positive to soften the blow to the real critique of what really went on." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/constructive-criticism-is-about-finding-something-82500/.
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"Constructive criticism is about finding something good and positive to soften the blow to the real critique of what really went on." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/constructive-criticism-is-about-finding-something-82500/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









