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Success Quote by John Wanamaker

"Courtesies cannot be borrowed like snow shovels; you must have some of your own"

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Wanamaker’s line lands like a brisk lecture delivered with a shopkeeper’s patience finally running out. The image does the heavy lifting: a snow shovel is a tool you can grab in a pinch, use once, return with a polite thanks. Courtesy, he argues, doesn’t work that way. It’s not a prop you rent for a dinner party or a sales pitch; it’s inventory you either stock daily or you don’t have when demand spikes.

The intent is practical, almost managerial. Wanamaker helped invent modern department-store culture, where strangers transact in close quarters and “service” becomes a brand promise. In that world, manners aren’t frills; they’re infrastructure. A store can’t run on sporadic charm. A leader can’t outsource basic decency to a well-trained staff and expect it to hold under stress. The metaphor quietly threatens exposure: when you try to “borrow” politeness, people can feel the seams. Performative courtesy reads like a rented suit - technically correct, emotionally cheap.

There’s also a moral subtext aimed at status. The Gilded Age loved borrowed symbols: accents, etiquette, philanthropy-as-reputation management. Wanamaker punctures that aspirational theater. Courtesy isn’t social climbing; it’s character, revealed most clearly when you’re hurried, tired, or dealing with someone who can’t benefit you.

The line survives because it’s anti-hack. It tells you the only sustainable way to seem considerate is to actually be considerate, long before you need it.

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Wanamaker, John. (n.d.). Courtesies cannot be borrowed like snow shovels; you must have some of your own. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/courtesies-cannot-be-borrowed-like-snow-shovels-47130/

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Wanamaker, John. "Courtesies cannot be borrowed like snow shovels; you must have some of your own." FixQuotes. Accessed February 1, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/courtesies-cannot-be-borrowed-like-snow-shovels-47130/.

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John Wanamaker (July 11, 1838 - December 12, 1922) was a Businessman from USA.

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