"Courtesies cannot be borrowed like snow shovels; you must have some of your own"
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The intent is practical, almost managerial. Wanamaker helped invent modern department-store culture, where strangers transact in close quarters and “service” becomes a brand promise. In that world, manners aren’t frills; they’re infrastructure. A store can’t run on sporadic charm. A leader can’t outsource basic decency to a well-trained staff and expect it to hold under stress. The metaphor quietly threatens exposure: when you try to “borrow” politeness, people can feel the seams. Performative courtesy reads like a rented suit - technically correct, emotionally cheap.
There’s also a moral subtext aimed at status. The Gilded Age loved borrowed symbols: accents, etiquette, philanthropy-as-reputation management. Wanamaker punctures that aspirational theater. Courtesy isn’t social climbing; it’s character, revealed most clearly when you’re hurried, tired, or dealing with someone who can’t benefit you.
The line survives because it’s anti-hack. It tells you the only sustainable way to seem considerate is to actually be considerate, long before you need it.
Quote Details
| Topic | Respect |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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Wanamaker, John. (n.d.). Courtesies cannot be borrowed like snow shovels; you must have some of your own. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/courtesies-cannot-be-borrowed-like-snow-shovels-47130/
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MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Courtesies cannot be borrowed like snow shovels; you must have some of your own." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/courtesies-cannot-be-borrowed-like-snow-shovels-47130/. Accessed 1 Feb. 2026.




