Life & Wisdom Quote by Edwin Louis Cole

Grief is framed here less as a feeling to be honored than as a habit that misplaces you in time. Cole’s line works because it turns mourning into a navigation error: “crying over what’s gone” isn’t just sad, it’s a futile search party sent to the wrong coordinates. The verb choice matters. “Find” implies the present isn’t guaranteed; it’s something you locate through attention and action. That quietly rewrites the usual self-help promise that “being present” is effortless if you just calm down. Cole suggests the opposite: the present is easy to miss, especially when your emotional energy is tied up in what can’t be recovered.

The subtext is pastoral and pragmatic. As a Christian men’s movement leader and motivational author, Cole wrote in a culture steeped in testimony, repentance, and forward motion. There’s an implied moral economy: tears that don’t convert into change become indulgence, a kind of sentimental procrastination. The quote nudges the reader from lament to responsibility without sounding like a scold; it keeps compassion at arm’s length by focusing on outcomes. You can hear a counselor’s impatience with rumination, the stalled life, the person who keeps paying interest on a closed chapter.

It also smuggles in a theological timekeeping: the past is fixed, the future is uncertain, the present is where obedience (or growth, or repair) actually happens. The line isn’t anti-emotion so much as anti-capture. Feel it, yes, but don’t live there.