"Death is with you all the time; you get deeper in it as you move towards it, but it's not unfamiliar to you. It's always been there, so what becomes unfamiliar to you when you pass away from the moment is really life"
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The subtext is political as much as existential. Hooks spent a career arguing that domination thrives on disconnection: from our bodies, from community, from love as an ethic. Read that way, “passing away from the moment” names a kind of social death that precedes the biological one: living on autopilot, numbed by consumer pace, trauma, and the daily micro-withdrawals demanded by racism and patriarchy. If death is familiar, it’s because structures of power rehearse it in advance, teaching people to shrink, to self-abandon, to treat aliveness as optional.
Contextually, hooks often approached spirituality without sanctimony, using it as a tool for clarity rather than consolation. This quote is a critique of avoidance disguised as comfort: you don’t need to make peace with death so much as you need to stop practicing absence. Life becomes “unfamiliar” when you’ve been trained to leave it.
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| Topic | Mortality |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Hooks, Bell. (2026, January 15). Death is with you all the time; you get deeper in it as you move towards it, but it's not unfamiliar to you. It's always been there, so what becomes unfamiliar to you when you pass away from the moment is really life. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/death-is-with-you-all-the-time-you-get-deeper-in-167027/
Chicago Style
Hooks, Bell. "Death is with you all the time; you get deeper in it as you move towards it, but it's not unfamiliar to you. It's always been there, so what becomes unfamiliar to you when you pass away from the moment is really life." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/death-is-with-you-all-the-time-you-get-deeper-in-167027/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Death is with you all the time; you get deeper in it as you move towards it, but it's not unfamiliar to you. It's always been there, so what becomes unfamiliar to you when you pass away from the moment is really life." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/death-is-with-you-all-the-time-you-get-deeper-in-167027/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







