"Depending on what day of the week it is and what time of the month it is, I'm a good friend or not a good friend. I'm more or less a good mom or not a good mom, more or less a good mate or not a good mate. That's just life, whether or not you're public"
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The subtext is a quiet revolt against the “role model” trap. Public figures are expected to be consistent, endlessly available, and morally legible; a musician is supposed to deliver the same stage-ready self no matter what’s happening offstage. Grant punctures that with a plainspoken realism: goodness isn’t a stable identity, it’s a fluctuating practice. “More or less” does the heavy lifting, rejecting the binary of good/bad in favor of a spectrum most people recognize but rarely admit out loud.
The final clause, “whether or not you’re public,” widens the frame. She’s not asking for special exemptions because fame is hard; she’s insisting that visibility doesn’t change the human baseline, it just amplifies the scrutiny. It’s an empathy play, but also a boundary: let me be uneven, as you are, without turning it into a headline or a moral verdict.
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Grant, Amy. (2026, January 15). Depending on what day of the week it is and what time of the month it is, I'm a good friend or not a good friend. I'm more or less a good mom or not a good mom, more or less a good mate or not a good mate. That's just life, whether or not you're public. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/depending-on-what-day-of-the-week-it-is-and-what-149454/
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Grant, Amy. "Depending on what day of the week it is and what time of the month it is, I'm a good friend or not a good friend. I'm more or less a good mom or not a good mom, more or less a good mate or not a good mate. That's just life, whether or not you're public." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/depending-on-what-day-of-the-week-it-is-and-what-149454/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Depending on what day of the week it is and what time of the month it is, I'm a good friend or not a good friend. I'm more or less a good mom or not a good mom, more or less a good mate or not a good mate. That's just life, whether or not you're public." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/depending-on-what-day-of-the-week-it-is-and-what-149454/. Accessed 25 Feb. 2026.








