"Depression is when you have lots of love, but no one's taking"
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The phrase "no one's taking" is the knife twist. Not "no one wants it", not "I can’t give it", but the passive, transactional language of a marketplace where the problem is demand. It’s a quietly brutal indictment of how modern life can convert intimacy into a kind of supply chain: you have the capacity, even the desire, to connect, but there’s no reliable infrastructure for receiving, reciprocating, or even noticing. The subtext isn’t only loneliness; it’s misrecognition. You are full of feeling, yet socially unreadable, or socially unreceived.
Coupland, a chronicler of late-20th-century alienation, often writes in the key of cool surfaces and private panic: people surrounded by brands, media, and chatter, but starving for genuine exchange. In that context, the quote lands like a minimalist slogan for a maximal problem. It also sidesteps the sentimental idea that love, simply offered, heals. Here, love can curdle into pain when it has no outlet, turning generosity into self-reproach: if the love isn’t being taken, maybe the giver is the product nobody wants.
That’s why it stings. It makes depression legible not as personal failure, but as a relational dead zone.
Quote Details
| Topic | Loneliness |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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Coupland, Doug. (n.d.). Depression is when you have lots of love, but no one's taking. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/depression-is-when-you-have-lots-of-love-but-no-51210/
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