"Divorce is the psychological equivalent of a triple coronary bypass"
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Blakely lands the metaphor like a diagnosis: divorce isn’t a bad week or a messy breakup, it’s major surgery. “Psychological equivalent” is a calculated phrase. She’s not claiming divorce and a triple bypass are the same kind of suffering; she’s insisting the scale is comparable, and that our culture routinely under-triages it. A bypass is clinical, invasive, and life-reordering. You don’t “move on” from it by Monday. You rehab. You monitor. You accept scars. By borrowing that medical gravity, Blakely pushes back against the social script that treats divorce as paperwork plus awkward dinners.
The “triple” matters, too. It signals compounded damage: grief, financial shock, identity collapse, parenting upheaval, the loss of a shared future. The line doesn’t romanticize marriage or demonize divorce; it reframes the event as an emergency intervention. Bypasses are often performed to prevent death. Subtext: divorce can be a survival measure, even when it’s devastating. That cuts against the moralizing tone divorce still attracts, especially for women who are often cast as the emotional custodians of family stability.
Contextually, the quote reads like a feminist insistence on taking private pain seriously in public language. By using the body as a reference point, Blakely translates invisible injury into a vocabulary people can’t dismiss. It’s a demand for compassion and for time: not just to “heal,” but to rebuild a self after the heart has been rerouted.
The “triple” matters, too. It signals compounded damage: grief, financial shock, identity collapse, parenting upheaval, the loss of a shared future. The line doesn’t romanticize marriage or demonize divorce; it reframes the event as an emergency intervention. Bypasses are often performed to prevent death. Subtext: divorce can be a survival measure, even when it’s devastating. That cuts against the moralizing tone divorce still attracts, especially for women who are often cast as the emotional custodians of family stability.
Contextually, the quote reads like a feminist insistence on taking private pain seriously in public language. By using the body as a reference point, Blakely translates invisible injury into a vocabulary people can’t dismiss. It’s a demand for compassion and for time: not just to “heal,” but to rebuild a self after the heart has been rerouted.
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| Topic | Divorce |
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