"Don't be afraid to feel as angry or as loving as you can, because when you feel nothing, it's just death"
About this Quote
The quote’s craft is in its audacious pairing of “angry” and “loving” at full volume. Horne isn’t advising moderation or “positive vibes.” She’s claiming the whole spectrum, insisting anger can be as vital as love because both are forms of contact: with injustice, with desire, with other people. The sentence also smuggles in a critique of respectability politics. For Black women, especially in mid-century America, anger was policed as dangerous, unattractive, ungrateful. Horne flips that script: anger becomes evidence of conscience, not a character flaw.
Then comes the hard turn: “when you feel nothing, it’s just death.” Not literal death so much as social death, the slow erasure that happens when you preemptively shrink yourself to avoid punishment. It’s a warning and a dare. Stay permeable, even if it hurts. Numbness isn’t peace; it’s a surrender dressed up as calm.
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| Topic | Life |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Horne, Lena. (2026, January 17). Don't be afraid to feel as angry or as loving as you can, because when you feel nothing, it's just death. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-be-afraid-to-feel-as-angry-or-as-loving-as-54432/
Chicago Style
Horne, Lena. "Don't be afraid to feel as angry or as loving as you can, because when you feel nothing, it's just death." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-be-afraid-to-feel-as-angry-or-as-loving-as-54432/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Don't be afraid to feel as angry or as loving as you can, because when you feel nothing, it's just death." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-be-afraid-to-feel-as-angry-or-as-loving-as-54432/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









