"Don't bother people for help without first trying to solve the problem yourself"
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“Don’t bother people for help without first trying to solve the problem yourself” lands like a rule of etiquette, but it’s really a leadership doctrine dressed in plain clothes. Powell, a statesman with a soldier’s sense of chain-of-command economics, is talking about scarcity: attention, credibility, bandwidth. In any bureaucracy - military, corporate, or governmental - every request is a bid for someone else’s time, and time is the one resource you can’t requisition back.
The intent is practical discipline. Try first, then ask. That sequence signals competence and respect: you’re not outsourcing your thinking, you’re escalating because you’ve hit a real limit. The subtext is reputational. People who arrive with “I already checked X, tried Y, and here’s where I’m stuck” get treated as peers. People who arrive empty-handed get tagged as dependents. Powell is quietly coaching you on how to be taken seriously.
Context matters because Powell’s career was built in institutions that punish noise and reward clarity. Military culture prizes initiative, but also accountability: you don’t hand a half-formed problem to a superior and make it their mess. Yet there’s an edge here, too: the word “bother” frames help-seeking as a social cost, which can discourage legitimate questions in settings where silence is dangerous. The best reading keeps the spine of the advice while softening the stigma: do the work first, then ask with precision - not because help is shameful, but because seriousness is contagious.
The intent is practical discipline. Try first, then ask. That sequence signals competence and respect: you’re not outsourcing your thinking, you’re escalating because you’ve hit a real limit. The subtext is reputational. People who arrive with “I already checked X, tried Y, and here’s where I’m stuck” get treated as peers. People who arrive empty-handed get tagged as dependents. Powell is quietly coaching you on how to be taken seriously.
Context matters because Powell’s career was built in institutions that punish noise and reward clarity. Military culture prizes initiative, but also accountability: you don’t hand a half-formed problem to a superior and make it their mess. Yet there’s an edge here, too: the word “bother” frames help-seeking as a social cost, which can discourage legitimate questions in settings where silence is dangerous. The best reading keeps the spine of the advice while softening the stigma: do the work first, then ask with precision - not because help is shameful, but because seriousness is contagious.
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