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Daily Inspiration Quote by Desiderius Erasmus

"Don't give your advice before you are called upon"

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Advice, Erasmus implies, is less a gift than an intrusion when it arrives uninvited. The line carries the cool restraint of a humanist who knew that words, however well-shaped, land inside a social order with rules: who gets to speak, when, and with what authority. In a culture where patronage, courtly etiquette, and clerical hierarchies governed survival, unsolicited counsel could read as presumption, criticism, or even a bid for power. Silence, here, isn’t timidity; it’s strategy.

The subtext is a quiet indictment of ego. People often “advise” to stage their own wisdom, to feel indispensable, to audition for moral superiority. Erasmus, who sat close enough to institutions to see their vanity up close, treats that impulse as a social toxin. Being “called upon” is not merely about politeness; it’s consent. It means the listener has opened a door, lowering defenses, making room for instruction rather than reflexive resistance. Good counsel requires a receptive audience, not just a correct opinion.

There’s also an ethical edge: advice creates obligations. If you speak into someone’s life without invitation, you’ve implicitly claimed a stake in their choices and their consequences. Erasmus is asking for humility about that claim. The line works because it shrinks grandstanding into a small, almost bureaucratic standard: wait your turn. In an age of public disputation and doctrinal certainty, that’s a surprisingly modern discipline - less about withholding truth than about respecting the conditions under which truth can be heard.

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TopicWisdom
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Later attribution: Quotes To Remember (Volume 1) (Dr Purushothaman, 2014) modern compilationID: OILiBAAAQBAJ
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... Don't give your advice before you are called upon . Desiderius Erasmus The best advice is this : Don't take advice and don't give advice . Author Unknown A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice ...
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Erasmus, Desiderius. (2026, February 25). Don't give your advice before you are called upon. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-give-your-advice-before-you-are-called-upon-43021/

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Erasmus, Desiderius. "Don't give your advice before you are called upon." FixQuotes. February 25, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-give-your-advice-before-you-are-called-upon-43021/.

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"Don't give your advice before you are called upon." FixQuotes, 25 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-give-your-advice-before-you-are-called-upon-43021/. Accessed 4 Mar. 2026.

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Desiderius Erasmus

Desiderius Erasmus (October 26, 1466 - July 12, 1536) was a Philosopher from Netherland.

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