"Don't give your advice before you are called upon"
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The subtext is a quiet indictment of ego. People often “advise” to stage their own wisdom, to feel indispensable, to audition for moral superiority. Erasmus, who sat close enough to institutions to see their vanity up close, treats that impulse as a social toxin. Being “called upon” is not merely about politeness; it’s consent. It means the listener has opened a door, lowering defenses, making room for instruction rather than reflexive resistance. Good counsel requires a receptive audience, not just a correct opinion.
There’s also an ethical edge: advice creates obligations. If you speak into someone’s life without invitation, you’ve implicitly claimed a stake in their choices and their consequences. Erasmus is asking for humility about that claim. The line works because it shrinks grandstanding into a small, almost bureaucratic standard: wait your turn. In an age of public disputation and doctrinal certainty, that’s a surprisingly modern discipline - less about withholding truth than about respecting the conditions under which truth can be heard.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Erasmus, Desiderius. (2026, January 14). Don't give your advice before you are called upon. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-give-your-advice-before-you-are-called-upon-43021/
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Erasmus, Desiderius. "Don't give your advice before you are called upon." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-give-your-advice-before-you-are-called-upon-43021/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Don't give your advice before you are called upon." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-give-your-advice-before-you-are-called-upon-43021/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









