"Don't marry a man to reform him - That's what reform schools are for"
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The subtext is sharper than the joke suggests. West flips the usual script of early 20th-century courtship, where women were expected to be civilizing forces and marriage was framed as a social upgrade for men. Her line refuses that unpaid labor. It also smuggles in a critique of respectability culture: if a man needs reform, that’s a problem for institutions designed for discipline, not for a wife drafted into the role of probation officer.
“Reform schools” does extra work here. It’s a comic exaggeration, but it carries the whiff of the carceral state, reminding you that “reform” often means control, punishment, and humiliation. West is implying that trying to transform someone through marriage isn’t romantic - it’s coercive, and it tends to curdle into resentment.
Context matters: West built her persona by needling censorship and sexual hypocrisy, turning double entendres into social commentary. The line lands because it’s both flirtatious and cold-eyed: love without illusions, autonomy without apology, a wink that doubles as a boundary.
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West, Mae. (2026, February 20). Don't marry a man to reform him - That's what reform schools are for. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-marry-a-man-to-reform-him-thats-what-26249/
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West, Mae. "Don't marry a man to reform him - That's what reform schools are for." FixQuotes. February 20, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-marry-a-man-to-reform-him-thats-what-26249/.
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"Don't marry a man to reform him - That's what reform schools are for." FixQuotes, 20 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/dont-marry-a-man-to-reform-him-thats-what-26249/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.










