"Enemies are so stimulating"
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The intent feels less mean-spirited than unsentimental. Hepburn came up in an industry that sold women likability as a job requirement, then punished them for having edges. Her public persona - blunt, patrician, stubbornly self-directed - made her an easy target for gossip columns and studio politics. The line reads like a private coping strategy turned into a punchy worldview: if you're going to be judged anyway, you might as well convert the judgment into momentum.
Subtext: enemies prove you're doing something worth resisting. They create stakes, narrative, friction. They also clarify identity. A friend can accept you in pieces; an enemy forces you into a coherent shape, if only to defend yourself. There's a sly pleasure here too - the thrill of being underestimated, the satisfaction of outlasting the people who want you smaller.
Culturally, it’s a classic Hepburn move: refusing victimhood without performing saintliness. The quote doesn’t romanticize conflict; it aestheticizes it, turning hostility into a kind of training regimen. In an era obsessed with being unproblematic, she reminds us that having opposition can be evidence of agency.
Quote Details
| Topic | Witty One-Liners |
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| Source | Later attribution: Phillips' Book of Great Thoughts and Funny Sayings (Bob Phillips, 2024) modern compilationISBN: 9781496488459 · ID: 17jxEAAAQBAJ
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... Enemies are so stimulating. Katharine Hepburn To have a good enemy, choose a friend: he knows where to strike. Diane de Poitiers I choose my friends for their good looks, my acquaintances for their good characters, and my enemies for ... |
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