"Eventually you love people - friends or lovers - because of their flaws"
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The turn from "despite" to "because" is the subtextual flex. Flaws become more than tolerated defects; they turn into identifiers, the quirks and fractures that make a person specific rather than interchangeable. It's also a thesis about attention: loving someone "because of their flaws" means you're looking closely enough to register the rough edges, and staying long enough for those edges to become familiar, even dear.
Coming from an actress, the line carries an implicit nod to performance. Everyone has a role they play at first. Real love arrives when the mask slips and you don't penalize the person for it. Allen frames mature affection as an act of recognition, not idealization - a commitment to the unedited cut.
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| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Allen, Karen. (2026, January 16). Eventually you love people - friends or lovers - because of their flaws. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/eventually-you-love-people-friends-or-lovers--103403/
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Allen, Karen. "Eventually you love people - friends or lovers - because of their flaws." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/eventually-you-love-people-friends-or-lovers--103403/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Eventually you love people - friends or lovers - because of their flaws." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/eventually-you-love-people-friends-or-lovers--103403/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.













