"Every action we take, everything we do, is either a victory or defeat in the struggle to become what we want to be"
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The intent is pragmatic, even predatory in its clarity: discipline your life by treating each gesture as strategic. De L’Enclos isn’t selling uplift; she’s offering a method for staying sovereign. The subtext is that identity isn’t discovered, it’s won - and “want” is not a guilty word. In her world, desire had to be defended, negotiated, and styled into acceptability. So she recasts desire as a project with stakes.
What makes the sentence work is its binary absolutism. “Every action” leaves no loopholes, while “victory or defeat” borrows the language of politics and war to dignify the private realm. It’s also a subtle rebuke to complacency: the enemy isn’t fate, it’s drift. Read now, it lands as a proto-modern critique of passive living - less self-help than self-command, with the sharp confidence of someone who understood that character is built in the margins between grand declarations.
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L'Enclos, Ninon de. (2026, January 16). Every action we take, everything we do, is either a victory or defeat in the struggle to become what we want to be. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/every-action-we-take-everything-we-do-is-either-a-105717/
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L'Enclos, Ninon de. "Every action we take, everything we do, is either a victory or defeat in the struggle to become what we want to be." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/every-action-we-take-everything-we-do-is-either-a-105717/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Every action we take, everything we do, is either a victory or defeat in the struggle to become what we want to be." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/every-action-we-take-everything-we-do-is-either-a-105717/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.












