"Every life is narrow. Our only escape is not to run away, but to learn to love the people we are and the world in which we find ourselves"
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Then he pivots to a definition of escape that’s quietly radical. “Our only escape” sounds like a promise of exit, but Haddon denies the fantasy of elsewhere. The subtext is anti-aspirational in the best sense: the problem isn’t that we’re trapped in small lives; it’s that we keep mistaking flight for freedom. Running away can mean literal departure, but it also gestures at the softer, culturally sanctioned forms: reinvention, distraction, the endless auditioning of alternative selves.
“Learn to love the people we are and the world in which we find ourselves” reframes acceptance as a skill, not a personality trait. “Learn” implies practice, repetition, failure, and growth; love is presented less as a mood than as an ethic. Coming from a novelist attuned to interiority and difference, the line resonates with characters (and readers) who don’t experience the world as frictionless. Haddon’s intent isn’t to romanticize constraint, but to argue that dignity comes from inhabiting it deliberately, turning “narrow” into depth rather than deprivation.
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| Topic | Self-Love |
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Haddon, Mark. (2026, January 15). Every life is narrow. Our only escape is not to run away, but to learn to love the people we are and the world in which we find ourselves. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/every-life-is-narrow-our-only-escape-is-not-to-96819/
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Haddon, Mark. "Every life is narrow. Our only escape is not to run away, but to learn to love the people we are and the world in which we find ourselves." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/every-life-is-narrow-our-only-escape-is-not-to-96819/.
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"Every life is narrow. Our only escape is not to run away, but to learn to love the people we are and the world in which we find ourselves." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/every-life-is-narrow-our-only-escape-is-not-to-96819/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.










