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"Every man can tell how many goats or sheep he possesses, but not how many friends"

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Cicero lands the point with a bookkeeping joke that turns into an indictment of Roman social life. Livestock you can inventory; friendship, the thing supposedly prized by civilized men, slips the moment you try to count it. The line works because it stages a clash between two economies: the clean arithmetic of property and the murky, performative accounting of human loyalty. In a society where status ran on patronage networks and favors, “friends” were often assets wearing smiles. Cicero’s barb is aimed at that ambiguity: you may be surrounded by people who dine with you, praise you, vote with you, but how many would take a risk when the wind shifts?

The subtext is skeptical without being nihilistic. Cicero isn’t denying friendship; he’s warning that it can’t be measured the way wealth can, and that the desire to quantify it is itself suspicious. Friendship is revealed not by proximity but by cost: what someone will forgo, what danger they’ll share, what truth they’ll tell you when it’s inconvenient. That’s why the goats and sheep matter. They’re a comic stand-in for the kind of certainty elites prefer: countable, tradable, legally secured.

The context sharpens the cynicism. Cicero lived through the Republic’s collapse, when alliances were fluid and “amicitia” could mean genuine affection or a political contract. Exile, civil war, proscriptions: these were stress tests that exposed how thin many friendships were. The quip reads like a survival note from a man who watched relationships turn transactional under pressure, and who still wanted to believe that the real thing exists precisely because it resists the ledger.

Quote Details

TopicFriendship
Source
Verified source: Laelius de Amicitia (On Friendship) (Cicero, 44)
Text match: 95.00%   Provider: Cross-Reference
Evidence:
Scipio used to complain that men were more painstaking in all other things than in friendship; that everybody could tell how many goats and sheep he had, but was unable to tell the number of his friends; and that men took pains in getting the former, but were careless in choosing the latter, and had no certain signs, or marks, so to speak, by which to determine their fitness for friendship. (Section 62 (often printed as §62; e.g., Loeb Classical Library edition shows it on p. 173)). The modern English quote you gave (“Every man can tell how many goats or sheep he possesses, but not how many friends”) is a shortened paraphrase/condensation of Cicero, Laelius de Amicitia §62. The underlying Latin in §62 is: “capras et oves quot quisque haberet, dicere posse, amicos quot haberet, non posse dicere …”. Cicero composed Laelius de Amicitia in 44 BC. A commonly cited print reference is the Loeb Classical Library (Cicero: De Senectute, De Amicitia, De Divinatione), trans. W. A. Falconer (1923), where §62 appears (with the above wording) and is marked around p. 173 in the online reprint of that edition.
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"Every man can tell how many goats or sheep he possesses, but not how many friends." FixQuotes, 7 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/every-man-can-tell-how-many-goats-or-sheep-he-8996/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Cicero (106 BC - 43 BC) was a Philosopher from Rome.

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