"Every man deems that he has precisely the trials and temptations which are the hardest of all others for him to bear; but they are so, simply because they are the very ones he most needs"
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Child’s line has the quiet audacity of a moral provocateur: it flatters your self-knowledge just long enough to take it away. She starts from a familiar, almost indulgent psychology - everyone believes their burdens are uniquely unbearable - then pivots to a bracing thesis: the very fact that a trial hurts is evidence it’s aimed at your weak spot, the place you most need strengthening. The move is surgical. It reframes suffering from a private injustice into a tailored curriculum.
The subtext is less “cheer up” than “stop making your pain a credential.” In a culture where hardship can become identity, Child treats it as diagnosis. Temptations and trials aren’t random attacks; they’re the specific pressure points that reveal character, habits, and blind spots. That’s why the sentence is so tight: “for him” repeats like a drumbeat, insisting that difficulty is personal not because it’s unfair, but because it’s instructive.
Context matters. Child was an abolitionist and women’s rights advocate who lived amid moral crises that demanded more than sympathetic feeling. For reformers, the hardest “temptations” were often comfortable compromises: silence to keep peace, gradualism to avoid backlash, charity without justice. Her formulation reads like a message to fellow citizens tempted to treat conscience as an optional accessory. If the cost of doing right feels uniquely heavy, that’s not proof you’re excused; it’s proof you’re exactly the person being tested.
There’s a stern generosity here: suffering isn’t romanticized, but it is conscripted into growth and responsibility.
The subtext is less “cheer up” than “stop making your pain a credential.” In a culture where hardship can become identity, Child treats it as diagnosis. Temptations and trials aren’t random attacks; they’re the specific pressure points that reveal character, habits, and blind spots. That’s why the sentence is so tight: “for him” repeats like a drumbeat, insisting that difficulty is personal not because it’s unfair, but because it’s instructive.
Context matters. Child was an abolitionist and women’s rights advocate who lived amid moral crises that demanded more than sympathetic feeling. For reformers, the hardest “temptations” were often comfortable compromises: silence to keep peace, gradualism to avoid backlash, charity without justice. Her formulation reads like a message to fellow citizens tempted to treat conscience as an optional accessory. If the cost of doing right feels uniquely heavy, that’s not proof you’re excused; it’s proof you’re exactly the person being tested.
There’s a stern generosity here: suffering isn’t romanticized, but it is conscripted into growth and responsibility.
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| Topic | Overcoming Obstacles |
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