"Everybody goes through obstacles and problems and issues and turn their backs on people that we are fond of and love just because we hurt; and everybody goes through that"
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Kodjoe’s line lands like a confession overheard mid-sentence: messy, repetitive, almost breathless. That’s not a flaw so much as the point. The stacking of “obstacles and problems and issues” mimics the way pain feels when you’re inside it - indistinct, piling up, hard to sort. He’s not performing eloquence; he’s performing the human scramble for a reason that doesn’t sound cruel.
The specific intent is softening judgment. “Turn their backs on people that we are fond of and love” names a betrayal without calling it that, then slides in the alibi: “just because we hurt.” He’s trying to reframe abandonment as a symptom, not a verdict on love. That’s an actorly move in the best sense - not manipulation, but empathy through motive. The subtext is: I’ve done this, or I’ve been close to someone who did. Notice how quickly “we” and “everybody” show up. He distributes responsibility across the crowd, turning a personal failing into a shared pattern. That universalizing is comforting, but it also lets the speaker step back from accountability without denying harm.
Contextually, it reads like the language of modern therapy culture filtered through celebrity plainspokenness: feelings as explanations, not excuses; vulnerability as social currency. It’s also a quiet defense of people who go missing emotionally - not monsters, just overwhelmed. The line works because it refuses a clean moral binary. It insists that love and withdrawal can coexist in the same person, sometimes in the same day, and that the damage is real even when the intent isn’t.
The specific intent is softening judgment. “Turn their backs on people that we are fond of and love” names a betrayal without calling it that, then slides in the alibi: “just because we hurt.” He’s trying to reframe abandonment as a symptom, not a verdict on love. That’s an actorly move in the best sense - not manipulation, but empathy through motive. The subtext is: I’ve done this, or I’ve been close to someone who did. Notice how quickly “we” and “everybody” show up. He distributes responsibility across the crowd, turning a personal failing into a shared pattern. That universalizing is comforting, but it also lets the speaker step back from accountability without denying harm.
Contextually, it reads like the language of modern therapy culture filtered through celebrity plainspokenness: feelings as explanations, not excuses; vulnerability as social currency. It’s also a quiet defense of people who go missing emotionally - not monsters, just overwhelmed. The line works because it refuses a clean moral binary. It insists that love and withdrawal can coexist in the same person, sometimes in the same day, and that the damage is real even when the intent isn’t.
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| Topic | Betrayal |
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