Parenting & Family Quote by P. J. O'Rourke

O'Rourke lands this line like a barstool punchline that turns, mid-laugh, into social indictment. The setup flatters the audience with a cozy premise: parenting expertise is everywhere. Then he snaps the trap shut: the only people disqualified are the ones doing the actual work. It’s not just a joke about hypocrisy; it’s a joke about how modern society distributes authority. Advice is cheap precisely because it’s consequence-free, and O’Rourke is needling the way certainty clusters around distance.

The intent is classic O’Rourke: libertarian-ish skepticism toward busybodies, experts, and the sanctimony industry. Parenting becomes a proxy for every arena where outsiders confuse commentary with competence. The subtext is that real parenting is messy, contingent, and humiliatingly resistant to theory. Children aren’t projects; they’re people with bad timing and their own physics. That’s why the loudest prescriptions often come from the childless, the recently parented (amnesia is powerful), or the professionally credentialed - groups insulated from the nightly grind of negotiation, exhaustion, and guilt.

Context matters: late-20th-century America saw an explosion of parenting books, daytime-TV psychologists, and policy debates that treated families as fixable machines. O’Rourke’s cynicism reads as a defense of privacy and fallibility. He’s not idealizing parents as wise; he’s arguing they’re the only ones paying the price for being wrong. The line works because it weaponizes a familiar annoyance - unsolicited advice - into a broader critique of cultural moralizing: we love telling people how to live, especially when we don’t have to live it.