"Everyone is a bore to someone. That is unimportant. The things to avoid is being a bore to oneself"
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Nobody escapes being boring; Collins treats that fact like weather. The real indictment is reserved for the private kind of dullness: the moment your own life stops surprising you. The line’s first move is disarmingly democratic - “Everyone is a bore to someone” levels the social playing field and punctures the anxiety that we can curate ourselves into universal appeal. In political life, where likability is treated as a transferable currency, that’s already a quiet rebuke.
Then she flips the axis from audience to conscience. “That is unimportant” isn’t nihilism; it’s triage. Public opinion is noisy, fickle, and often structural: class, gender, age, accent. A woman in mid-century politics would have known how quickly “boring” becomes a gendered dismissal - a way to police tone, ambition, even competence. Collins refuses to make that the measure of a life.
“Being a bore to oneself” lands as both ethical warning and survival advice. The subtext is that self-boredom isn’t about failing to entertain; it’s about failing to engage - settling into performative routines, repeating inherited scripts, outsourcing your curiosity to whatever gets applause. For a politician, that’s also a governing principle: if you can’t hold your own attention, you’ll chase crowds, slogans, and adrenaline instead of substance.
The phrasing is slightly off-kilter (“things to avoid is”), which oddly helps: it reads like speech, not marble. The intent isn’t to dazzle; it’s to re-center ambition away from being watched and toward being awake.
Then she flips the axis from audience to conscience. “That is unimportant” isn’t nihilism; it’s triage. Public opinion is noisy, fickle, and often structural: class, gender, age, accent. A woman in mid-century politics would have known how quickly “boring” becomes a gendered dismissal - a way to police tone, ambition, even competence. Collins refuses to make that the measure of a life.
“Being a bore to oneself” lands as both ethical warning and survival advice. The subtext is that self-boredom isn’t about failing to entertain; it’s about failing to engage - settling into performative routines, repeating inherited scripts, outsourcing your curiosity to whatever gets applause. For a politician, that’s also a governing principle: if you can’t hold your own attention, you’ll chase crowds, slogans, and adrenaline instead of substance.
The phrasing is slightly off-kilter (“things to avoid is”), which oddly helps: it reads like speech, not marble. The intent isn’t to dazzle; it’s to re-center ambition away from being watched and toward being awake.
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