"Existence itself does not feel horrible; it feels like an ecstasy, rather, which we have only to be still to experience"
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The pivot to “ecstasy” is the provocation. Updike chooses a word that sounds excessive, even suspiciously religious, and then undercuts it with a remarkably modest instruction: “only to be still.” That “only” matters. It frames transcendence not as achievement but as access. Stillness becomes a kind of moral and perceptual discipline, a quiet rebuke to a culture of busyness, self-curation, and constant stimulation. The subtext is that we miss the intensity of existence because we’re addicted to narrating it, optimizing it, fixing it.
Contextually, this is Updike in his most characteristic mode: a novelist of American plenty who kept insisting that the ordinary world is not ordinary if you actually look. His work often treats desire, suburbia, faith, and mortality as overlapping frequencies. Here, he’s tuning the reader toward a secular mysticism: not salvation from life, but attention to it. The sentence performs its own thesis, too, slowing down with commas and soft certainty, asking you to practice stillness long enough for the claim to feel plausible.
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Updike, John. (2026, January 18). Existence itself does not feel horrible; it feels like an ecstasy, rather, which we have only to be still to experience. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/existence-itself-does-not-feel-horrible-it-feels-2188/
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Updike, John. "Existence itself does not feel horrible; it feels like an ecstasy, rather, which we have only to be still to experience." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/existence-itself-does-not-feel-horrible-it-feels-2188/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Existence itself does not feel horrible; it feels like an ecstasy, rather, which we have only to be still to experience." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/existence-itself-does-not-feel-horrible-it-feels-2188/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.









