"Familiarity is a magician that is cruel to beauty but kind to ugliness"
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The cruelty here is social as much as romantic. In late-Victorian culture, beauty was currency and performance, especially for women: admired, scrutinized, and eventually punished for being real. Ouida, a novelist steeped in melodrama and high style, understood how quickly adoration curdles when the admired person is no longer an image but a presence with needs. Familiarity demotes the beautiful from spectacle to neighbor; it also allows society to forgive the unbeautiful by granting them narrative - a personality, a history, a usefulness.
The subtext lands as a warning: if your power is aesthetic, time and proximity are not your allies. It’s also a quiet indictment of the viewer. The “magician” isn’t beauty itself; it’s our attention, fickle and lazy, always looking for novelty. Ouida makes that laziness sound like a moral failure.
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Ouida. (2026, January 15). Familiarity is a magician that is cruel to beauty but kind to ugliness. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/familiarity-is-a-magician-that-is-cruel-to-beauty-147371/
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Ouida. "Familiarity is a magician that is cruel to beauty but kind to ugliness." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/familiarity-is-a-magician-that-is-cruel-to-beauty-147371/.
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"Familiarity is a magician that is cruel to beauty but kind to ugliness." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/familiarity-is-a-magician-that-is-cruel-to-beauty-147371/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.










