"Far from being the basis of the good society, the family, with its narrow privacy and tawdry secrets, is the source of all our discontents"
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Leach doesn not lob this as a simple anti-family provocation; he writes like an anthropologist trying to pry a sacred object loose from its pedestal. Mid-century Britain still treated "the family" as civilization's basic unit, the moral alibi for everything from housing policy to sexual policing. Leach flips that civic piety into an indictment: what gets sold as the foundation of social order is, in practice, a private bunker where power hides.
The line works because of its weaponized diction. "Narrow privacy" sounds protective until you hear the claustrophobia in it: privacy not as freedom but as insulation from scrutiny. "Tawdry secrets" punctures the sentimental glow around domestic life; tawdry is the word for something cheap that pretends to be respectable. He's implying that the family specializes in converting mess - desire, resentment, hierarchy - into a closed system of denial. Keep it inside, keep it polite, keep it unaccountable.
Subtext: the family isn't merely one institution among others; it is the training ground for inequality. Children learn obedience before they learn citizenship. Women learn unpaid labor before they learn autonomy. Shame becomes a governance technology, efficiently outsourced from state to household. If you want to understand why publics get anxious, punitive, and hypocritical, Leach suggests, look at the tiny sovereign state we grow up in.
Context matters: Leach was writing in an era when anthropology was dismantling "natural" categories - kinship, marriage, gender roles - by showing their variability across cultures. Calling the family the "source of all our discontents" echoes Freud on civilization, but with a social scientist's bite: the problem isn't human nature; it's the domestic arrangement we've decided to treat as destiny.
The line works because of its weaponized diction. "Narrow privacy" sounds protective until you hear the claustrophobia in it: privacy not as freedom but as insulation from scrutiny. "Tawdry secrets" punctures the sentimental glow around domestic life; tawdry is the word for something cheap that pretends to be respectable. He's implying that the family specializes in converting mess - desire, resentment, hierarchy - into a closed system of denial. Keep it inside, keep it polite, keep it unaccountable.
Subtext: the family isn't merely one institution among others; it is the training ground for inequality. Children learn obedience before they learn citizenship. Women learn unpaid labor before they learn autonomy. Shame becomes a governance technology, efficiently outsourced from state to household. If you want to understand why publics get anxious, punitive, and hypocritical, Leach suggests, look at the tiny sovereign state we grow up in.
Context matters: Leach was writing in an era when anthropology was dismantling "natural" categories - kinship, marriage, gender roles - by showing their variability across cultures. Calling the family the "source of all our discontents" echoes Freud on civilization, but with a social scientist's bite: the problem isn't human nature; it's the domestic arrangement we've decided to treat as destiny.
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