"Far from being the basis of the good society, the family, with its narrow privacy and tawdry secrets, is the source of all our discontents"
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The line works because of its weaponized diction. "Narrow privacy" sounds protective until you hear the claustrophobia in it: privacy not as freedom but as insulation from scrutiny. "Tawdry secrets" punctures the sentimental glow around domestic life; tawdry is the word for something cheap that pretends to be respectable. He's implying that the family specializes in converting mess - desire, resentment, hierarchy - into a closed system of denial. Keep it inside, keep it polite, keep it unaccountable.
Subtext: the family isn't merely one institution among others; it is the training ground for inequality. Children learn obedience before they learn citizenship. Women learn unpaid labor before they learn autonomy. Shame becomes a governance technology, efficiently outsourced from state to household. If you want to understand why publics get anxious, punitive, and hypocritical, Leach suggests, look at the tiny sovereign state we grow up in.
Context matters: Leach was writing in an era when anthropology was dismantling "natural" categories - kinship, marriage, gender roles - by showing their variability across cultures. Calling the family the "source of all our discontents" echoes Freud on civilization, but with a social scientist's bite: the problem isn't human nature; it's the domestic arrangement we've decided to treat as destiny.
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Leach, Edmund. (2026, January 16). Far from being the basis of the good society, the family, with its narrow privacy and tawdry secrets, is the source of all our discontents. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/far-from-being-the-basis-of-the-good-society-the-111592/
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Leach, Edmund. "Far from being the basis of the good society, the family, with its narrow privacy and tawdry secrets, is the source of all our discontents." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/far-from-being-the-basis-of-the-good-society-the-111592/.
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"Far from being the basis of the good society, the family, with its narrow privacy and tawdry secrets, is the source of all our discontents." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/far-from-being-the-basis-of-the-good-society-the-111592/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.








