"Few people know how to be old"
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"Few people know how to be old" lands like a quiet insult disguised as a shrug, and that’s exactly why it works. Maggie Kuhn wasn’t lamenting wrinkles; she was indicting a culture that treats aging as a personal failure instead of a social stage with its own skills, rights, and pleasures. The line implies that being old isn’t just something that happens to you. It’s something you have to learn how to do - and we’ve built a world that withholds the instruction manual.
Kuhn, best known for founding the Gray Panthers, spent her life pushing against the infantilization of older adults: mandatory retirement, patronizing “golden years” messaging, the way public policy talks about elders as burdens or budget lines. Read in that context, “know how” is the loaded phrase. It points to social competence, yes, but also to power: knowing how to be old means knowing how to insist on visibility, how to keep wanting things, how to refuse the script of withdrawal and gratitude.
The subtext is also a jab at everyone else. If few people know how to be old, it’s partly because the rest of us don’t know how to let people age in public. We hide decline, fetishize youth, and outsource care, then act shocked when old age arrives looking lonely and under-rehearsed. Kuhn’s sentence is activism at its most efficient: it reframes aging from an inevitable slide into irrelevance into a contested identity - one that can be practiced, politicized, and, crucially, done better.
Kuhn, best known for founding the Gray Panthers, spent her life pushing against the infantilization of older adults: mandatory retirement, patronizing “golden years” messaging, the way public policy talks about elders as burdens or budget lines. Read in that context, “know how” is the loaded phrase. It points to social competence, yes, but also to power: knowing how to be old means knowing how to insist on visibility, how to keep wanting things, how to refuse the script of withdrawal and gratitude.
The subtext is also a jab at everyone else. If few people know how to be old, it’s partly because the rest of us don’t know how to let people age in public. We hide decline, fetishize youth, and outsource care, then act shocked when old age arrives looking lonely and under-rehearsed. Kuhn’s sentence is activism at its most efficient: it reframes aging from an inevitable slide into irrelevance into a contested identity - one that can be practiced, politicized, and, crucially, done better.
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| Topic | Aging |
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Kuhn, Maggie. (2026, January 16). Few people know how to be old. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/few-people-know-how-to-be-old-114268/
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Kuhn, Maggie. "Few people know how to be old." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/few-people-know-how-to-be-old-114268/.
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"Few people know how to be old." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/few-people-know-how-to-be-old-114268/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.
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