"Find me a man who's interesting enough to have dinner with and I'll be happy"
About this Quote
“Interesting enough to have dinner with” is the masterstroke. Dinner isn’t destiny; it’s a test. It’s public, conversational, and time-bound - the opposite of melodrama. Bacall’s not asking for rescue, wealth, or even “true love.” She’s asking for sustained attention: a person who can hold up their end of an evening without collapsing into ego, small talk, or performance. The bar is both modest and brutal, because it exposes how many men in her world were trained to be impressive rather than engaging.
The line also plays like a Hollywood corrective. Bacall came up in an industry that sold women as images and men as agents. Here, she flips the terms: her happiness isn’t located in being chosen; it’s located in choosing an interlocutor. “Find me” reads like a challenge tossed to the room - to studios, suitors, and the audience complicit in the fantasy. If someone can’t meet her at the table, they don’t get access to anything else.
It’s romantic skepticism with a grin: intimacy begins not with grand declarations, but with the rarest commodity of all - a conversation worth staying for.
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| Topic | Romantic |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Bacall, Lauren. (2026, January 15). Find me a man who's interesting enough to have dinner with and I'll be happy. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/find-me-a-man-whos-interesting-enough-to-have-162162/
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Bacall, Lauren. "Find me a man who's interesting enough to have dinner with and I'll be happy." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/find-me-a-man-whos-interesting-enough-to-have-162162/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Find me a man who's interesting enough to have dinner with and I'll be happy." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/find-me-a-man-whos-interesting-enough-to-have-162162/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.






