"First you date the songs, and then you get engaged and then you marry them. They have to stand the test of time, because they are going to be yours for the next 20, 30, 40 years. So you had better choose right"
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The intent reads partly like advice and partly like self-defense from an artist who knows catalog longevity is the real scoreboard. For musicians, the difference between a hit and a standard is whether the song survives people’s life changes: breakups, weddings, funerals, the commute you didn’t plan to still be making at 45. Anthony’s subtext is that the “right” songs don’t just entertain; they age with you, revealing new meanings as your own story gets messier.
There’s also a subtle pushback against the culture of instant gratification. Marriage is a promise you can’t easily retract, and he’s borrowing that gravity to elevate listening from consumption to identity. Your music choices, he implies, will outlast your moods - and maybe even outlast you. Choose what you want to be haunted by.
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| Topic | Music |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Anthony, Marc. (2026, January 16). First you date the songs, and then you get engaged and then you marry them. They have to stand the test of time, because they are going to be yours for the next 20, 30, 40 years. So you had better choose right. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/first-you-date-the-songs-and-then-you-get-engaged-88169/
Chicago Style
Anthony, Marc. "First you date the songs, and then you get engaged and then you marry them. They have to stand the test of time, because they are going to be yours for the next 20, 30, 40 years. So you had better choose right." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/first-you-date-the-songs-and-then-you-get-engaged-88169/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"First you date the songs, and then you get engaged and then you marry them. They have to stand the test of time, because they are going to be yours for the next 20, 30, 40 years. So you had better choose right." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/first-you-date-the-songs-and-then-you-get-engaged-88169/. Accessed 9 Mar. 2026.





