"Follow the three R's: - Respect for self. - Respect for others. - Responsibility for all your actions"
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A mantra dressed as a checklist, the Dalai Lama's "three R's" compress a whole political theology into 17 plainspoken words. The genius is the sequencing. "Respect for self" comes first, a quiet rebuke to the idea that humility means self-erasure. In a tradition often caricatured as pure renunciation, he's smuggling in a modern premise: dignity isn't vanity; it's the minimum stake you need to act ethically rather than obediently.
"Respect for others" sounds obvious until you notice how it refuses to specify tribe, nation, or creed. That's not soft sentimentality; it's strategic universality. As a leader whose life is defined by exile and the long aftermath of Tibet's annexation, the Dalai Lama can't afford a morality that only works inside the in-group. The line implies a politics without revenge: recognition as a discipline, not a mood.
Then comes the hard part: "Responsibility for all your actions". The phrase "all" is doing the heavy lifting. It's a refusal of moral outsourcing - to systems, to orders, to historical grievance. It reads like a spiritual principle, but it functions like civic instruction: if your behavior is always someone else's fault, you are permanently governable.
The subtext is leadership by restraint. This isn't a call to feel good; it's a framework for maintaining agency under pressure, for building a social ethic that can survive conflict without mirroring it. In three items, he sketches a ladder from inner integrity to public consequence, making compassion sound less like innocence and more like accountability.
"Respect for others" sounds obvious until you notice how it refuses to specify tribe, nation, or creed. That's not soft sentimentality; it's strategic universality. As a leader whose life is defined by exile and the long aftermath of Tibet's annexation, the Dalai Lama can't afford a morality that only works inside the in-group. The line implies a politics without revenge: recognition as a discipline, not a mood.
Then comes the hard part: "Responsibility for all your actions". The phrase "all" is doing the heavy lifting. It's a refusal of moral outsourcing - to systems, to orders, to historical grievance. It reads like a spiritual principle, but it functions like civic instruction: if your behavior is always someone else's fault, you are permanently governable.
The subtext is leadership by restraint. This isn't a call to feel good; it's a framework for maintaining agency under pressure, for building a social ethic that can survive conflict without mirroring it. In three items, he sketches a ladder from inner integrity to public consequence, making compassion sound less like innocence and more like accountability.
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