"For those who live neither with religious consolations about death nor with a sense of death (or of anything else) as natural, death is the obscene mystery, the ultimate affront, the thing that cannot be controlled. It can only be denied"
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The subtext is an indictment of modern confidence. We like to imagine ourselves as rational adults who traded superstition for science, but Sontag suggests we swapped one kind of faith for another: faith in mastery. When death arrives, that faith fails publicly and humiliatingly. Hence denial, not as a personal flaw but as a social practice. We hide the dying, euphemize the diagnosis, sanitize the hospital room, turn grief into “closure,” and outsource the mess to professionals. Denial is the only “control” available, a counterfeit agency.
Context matters: Sontag wrote in a late-20th-century world where medicine could prolong life but not explain its ending, where mass media made death constant yet abstract, and where secularism didn’t eliminate metaphysics so much as privatize it. Her line lands like a rebuke to a culture that can discuss everything except the one event that makes every discussion urgent.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Sontag, Susan. (2026, January 16). For those who live neither with religious consolations about death nor with a sense of death (or of anything else) as natural, death is the obscene mystery, the ultimate affront, the thing that cannot be controlled. It can only be denied. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/for-those-who-live-neither-with-religious-102512/
Chicago Style
Sontag, Susan. "For those who live neither with religious consolations about death nor with a sense of death (or of anything else) as natural, death is the obscene mystery, the ultimate affront, the thing that cannot be controlled. It can only be denied." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/for-those-who-live-neither-with-religious-102512/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"For those who live neither with religious consolations about death nor with a sense of death (or of anything else) as natural, death is the obscene mystery, the ultimate affront, the thing that cannot be controlled. It can only be denied." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/for-those-who-live-neither-with-religious-102512/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







