"Force may subdue, but love gains, and he that forgives first wins the laurel"
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The line about forgiveness is the real dare. “He that forgives first” isn’t morally superior so much as tactically ahead. Forgiveness, offered early, interrupts the escalation cycle that force depends on. It also seizes narrative control: the first forgiver defines the conflict as reconcilable, not existential. That’s why “wins the laurel” lands like a civic prize, not a halo. Penn is describing a public victory - reputation, authority, the kind of honor a community can recognize.
Context sharpens the edge. As a Quaker founder navigating sectarian violence, imprisonment, and the colonial experiment of Pennsylvania, Penn needed a governing ethic that could survive provocation. This is leadership rhetoric pitched against the 17th century’s default setting: vengeance as statecraft. The subtext is pragmatic radicalism: the strongest move may be the one that refuses to look strong, because it converts enemies into stakeholders and turns peace into a form of power.
Quote Details
| Topic | Forgiveness |
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| Source | Later attribution: The Life of William Penn (Mason Locke Weems, 1859) modern compilationID: uHccHX9h7vQC
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... Force may subdue , but love gains ; and he that forgives first , wins the laurel . 547. If I am even with my enemy , the debt is paid ; but if I forgive it , I oblige him for ever . 548. Love is the hardest lesson in christianity ; but ... |
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Penn, William. (2026, February 14). Force may subdue, but love gains, and he that forgives first wins the laurel. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/force-may-subdue-but-love-gains-and-he-that-91574/
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"Force may subdue, but love gains, and he that forgives first wins the laurel." FixQuotes, 14 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/force-may-subdue-but-love-gains-and-he-that-91574/. Accessed 28 Feb. 2026.













